Years later, in my therapy room, I was able to experience another dimension of silence with a child with selective mutism, and a psychogenic basis, which, to emphasize its willingness to let me live his silence, I built with blocks of foam and a huge sound barrier, with "slots" filled with items sharp as if they had weapons of attack or defense, so in order to establish the boundaries between my and your space. Ben other feelings, other emotions well! A hard, icy and silent, dark and painful, the Nothing and its dangers (as well for 45 minutes, the time canon of the sessions, but something like four hours in my psychological time)
The memory of these two experiences made me much reflection on the nature of silence and his inner landscapes. In fact, the silence has its own semantic , its emotional meaning. Then, sometimes, we can perceive as a full, like when you can feel the love in its entirety, when Love needs no words but with gestures and looks full, or when the silence is a moment of meditation , contact with someone or with yourself, making it even during synthesis, reflection and planning. But there is silence as the Void, the inability to communicate icy silence between people, or a grief too big and old to be expressed, of a fear that paralyzes the soul, too much pent-up anger to be dissolved in a scream or a cry. Silence of the Night, Silence of the primeval darkness, Silence of Absence.
but the silence probably has its own rules, and then you can talk about its syntax , with its duration and its punctuation: these are the breaks when we speak, which are used to collect new ideas or to understand whether and how the other felt he understood, or are the words that suddenly pierce, sharp objects such as stones thrown of my little patient, breaking the barrier, filling the silence of grief and anger.
Finally, be silent or feel the silence of the other can not produce effects on people, because you can not remain impassive in the face of it, or because it tends to escape, or because you let yourself be captivated by its charm. It 's the pragmatic of silence. The Palo Alto School psychologists maintain that silence in itself contains a strong communicative value. It 's impossible, in fact, do not communicate, if only because, paradoxically, with no communication to inform you that we are not communicating ...!
The silence thus can not be treated as a kind of empty, but as a place "too full", as a space full of mental and communicative content, experiences, values. Cold or hot it is, silence is a full-forward the intentions of those who live and those who do it live.
E ', however important the night, so prepare the day ... And it is the "good Silence", which requires folding in on ourselves, that is worth exploring, not only because it can be an antidote to the "Silence bad", but mostly because, "deciding" to be so, helps us to put order in our emotional drawers, turn off the accumulated white noise, or the chaos of inner tension, remorse, guilt, distorted ideas, prejudices lapidary that populate our landscape interior. It 's the way to the transparency, clarity and emotional clarity, and for that you need courage.
's just doing in the desert, only if you really silence, you can think of to find themselves and to rediscover stronger, more authentic, more mature. And it is only by silence within him that allows the other to get even with its contradictions and its ambivalence, empathizing with his pain without giving up self, but accepting and embracing his words, his silence and scenery inner
posted by: Morton0 on Joke or Folllia
published on 06/08/2007 Blog Pen Ink Pen Inkwell
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